For so long, I hid who I am, from myself and everyone around me.
I realized something about me was different.
I’m not like other humans, not even sure I AM human.
Figuring out who I am has been a confusing uneven pothole-ridden path of discovery
I tried being straight and cisgender (identifies with the gender assigned at birth) first, I mean that’s what we’re supposed to do, right?
Then I tried a cis lesbian, nope, not quite right.
What about a trans man? Maybe that’s me?
Do I want to be more masculine? Well, yes, but also glittery.
I want to dye my hair all kinds of colors.
I want to wear three piece pinstripe suits.
But sometimes I like wearing sparkly dresses and skirts.
Sometimes I wear all black and nothing else.
Makeup? I do like eyeliner with wings, dark black eyeliner or sparkly eyeliner.
But men don’t wear eyeliner, do they?
I don’t feel like I can do any of that or all of that..
And sometimes, I don’t have the energy to do it at all.
Trying to be what I want when I’m being told to be different every second of every day is rough.
I am constantly pushing back against what society tells me to be.
Society says I should be heterosexual, or at the very least a lesbian,
but no, I push against that and I am bisexual.
Society says I should be a woman because that’s what I was assigned at birth,
but no, I go against that and I am trans nonbinary genderfluid genderbereft.
Society says I should be thin and exercise all the time,
but no, I am fat, I enjoy food, and can’t usually exercise, thanks pain and arthritis.
Society says I should be neurotypical,
but no, I am not only all kinds of mentally ill, but also autistic and flappy and stimmy.
It feels like every fucking aspect of my life is me pushing back against what society says I should be or do or have
and let me tell you
Sometimes I just want to give in and be what I’m being told to be.
It would be so much “easier.”
But when I do that, I hate myself more than I can describe.
And I realize I wouldn’t be me.
Being authentic to yourself gives you strength.
So now I just need to figure out who the fuck I actually am.